Just got off the phone with my BFF - T. He broke off the engagement with this crazy girl, and I really hope this is final.
T is one of the most qualified bachelors I know. He is good looking, tall, intelligent, successful, and most importantly, he knows how to treat women right. And no, I have never been involved with him. He is a great friend and will always be a close friend of mine.
As wonderful as he is, the girls he has dated are all somewhat emotionally unstable. I don't want to say they are psychos but they just don't seem too normal to me or anyone in our circle. Their level of insanity goes from sitting at home all day ever since they met and financially dependent on him, to running him over with a car. T is generous to all of them. He doesn't mind buying expensive gifts and paying everything for the girl. It's nice, but I somehow feel that these girls are really taking advantage of his generosity.
This time his ex-fiancee stormed into his place to ask for her engagement ring back (after she returned it back to him when they broke up). She said it's a collateral just in case T walks out from the lease they both signed on the property he is currently living as her reasoning. WTF?!
Last time he dated this girl who cheated on him and lied about it. T found out and tried to reason with her. This shameless woman went nuts and hit him with the BMW he bought her.
One time he broke up with this girl, she black-mailed him. And I was one of the mail recipients.
He asked me why can't he find someone normal.
One thing I need to mention. Most of these girls have a common trait - they were either beauty queens, or have been in a beauty pageant. The ex-fiancee isn't one but she is clinically diagnosed with borderline personality + bipolar.
I don't blame men for admiring beauty, but dating beauty queens comes with a price. Successful men often come with a big ego. Women who are young and beautiful also have a big ego, it's just manifested in a different way. These women need to be worshipped. They want men to treat them like princess. I am sure T did a good job pampering them at the beginning, but how long can you keep it up? They always want more, and when you begin to have doubt and stop paying/paying less attention to them, they go nuts.
These women are insecure deep down inside because they don't have anything else worth showing off besides their youth and looks. I often think strippers work not only for money, but also their desperate need of self-validation.
T, I know you are in excruciating pain now, and I don't have an immediate solution for you. I am not saying you are superficial, but IMHO, you really need to find someone real.
